I am not sure about you, but I love doing quizzes online, such as BuzzFeed quizzes. They are so entertaining, even though some of them do not make any sense. So yesterday, I was on Pinterest, going through the "Explore" page. There was a pin that led to a quiz that was supposedly going to tell me if I am good at marriage. I clicked on it, not because I wanted to find out the answer, but because my counselor hat went on and made me curious about the criteria that decided if somebody is good or bad at being married.
There are 20 questions in this quiz. As someone who learned about personality assessments, I know that 20 questions are simply not enough to answer whether someone is a good or bad spouse. And then there were the actual questions. I laughed so hard at some of them. I mean, why is it important to know how often I talk to my mother when deciding if I suck at marriage or not? I guess I can see a very distant reason where this question is coming from. Some people spend more time with their family of origin rather than their spouses, but that all depends on circumstances.
Another question that completely threw me off was, "What's the best part of the holidays?". I really do not see the connection between enjoying certain parts of holidays and being a good wife. But I kept going and answered all of the questions!
Here was my verdict:
You're Great at Marriage! You're a strong, independent person who knows you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else. You don't need your partner, but you love and respect them. You're honest, patient and empathetic - important traits when living with someone successfully. Marriage is a partnership and doing your part is important. You know and understand this and want to put the work in.
I will be honest, I loved the result. Who does not want to hear that you are great at being a partner, right? I also completely agree that you have to love and respect yourself before loving someone else. If you are in a situation where you think only your partner deserves the best and you do absolutely everything for him/her, while forgetting about your own self, it can create problems in a relationship. If you do not love yourself, then how do you expect others to love you as well? This is definitely something to think about before getting into a relationship.
I also love the idea that marriage is a partnership. It definitely is! Learning to be a good partner may take a while. It can be difficult at times, especially when you move in together with your partner. When Jude and I moved into our apartment, we saw the sides of ourselves that we previously hid from each other, such as me being impatient at times, or getting annoyed with littles things. This happens to every couple by the way. The honeymoon period ends, the drug-like high fades away, and we begin uncovering our real selves. This is the perfect time to show support and respect for each other, which leads to uncovering other important traits of a good partner. What do you think are these important traits?
Anyway, here is the QUIZ that I took! I am sure you are interested and want to find out if marriage is something you are or will be good at. If the result says that marriage is not your thing, don't be disappointed. It's just a quiz!
I can't wait to hear your thoughts on this topic! Do you like reading about dating and relationships? What would you like me to write about when it comes to this topic? Let me know in the comments!